No Twinkies?!!

I am curious...who was the moronic person (i.e. doctor, nutritionalist, etc) that came out & said that in order to eat healthy you have to also cut out all of the "good crap"?

Someone explain to me how a "healthy" diet excludes all psychology, common sense, & rationale? Sure we all think of eating healthy as the green stuff, along with a good portion of lean protein. Cut out the sugars, the sodas, the ingredients you can't pronounce, the salt, etc.

Great! You will be a green lean cutting machine! Right? And your body will be so happy.

But how will you feel?

Seriously?! If you are going to go "healthy" there is no need to cut the sugars, just make it real natural sugar in which your body will digest easily unlike the "fake" sugars. I can go on for days about how skim milk is worse for you due to the process in which to cut our fat & then re-add the nutrients that the fat took with it.

By cutting out the twinkies, the sodas, the "good crap" you are setting yourself up for failure. Your expectations are too high. Sure we all want kids who want to eat the yogurt over the oatmeal cream pie. But what happens when the do get to finally eat an oatmeal cream pie? Binge! Just like you! You will binge.

And just like binge drinking is more deadly than daily drinking, so is binge eating. It does more harm to your body & your psyche than just having a soda a day, a twinkie, or even potato chips in your daily diet. That is the healthy choice!

The Unspoken Discrimination Within

I am so sick & tired of the unspoken discrimination within the military. Not that of the activity duty discrimination. No. Not the gay v. straight discrimination. No. Not even the discrimination amongst ranks. No.

I'm talking about the discrimination the military gives spouses. I'm so sick of hearing "no" just because I'm not a foreign national. Yes, I'm a born & breed American. Yes I'm educated. Yes I have common sense. Yes, I'm sane...most days. Yes, I speak English...sometimes fluently. However, why does that automatically make me competent in a way that my foreign national counterpart spouses aren't?

Sometimes I get so removed from the whole military lifestyle that I forget this part. That is until I "need" my service member at home & I am denied that request because I am not a foreign national spouse...oh so fragile & frail! They really play up the system too!

So what if I speak English...I am still in a foreign country too where English is not the main language.

So what if I am American, does that mean that times & situations are less stressful on me?

All I need is one bloody damm weekend in which my husband can help me, the pregnant sane, been emotional stable, military spouse who lives out on in town on the economy, to prepare for this birth of the child that he will be missing! ONE WEEKEND! And I know, I can tell, it is getting really close to this kid coming out...but who cares. I can do it alone! After all, I am afluently speaking American, right? No worries... I don't my service member at all!

Why is that not granted to me, but the lady who needs to go up to the embassy to get her passport re-done can get her husband out of every other important military schedule just to watch the kids because she doesn't want to use the CDC or a friend?

Or the lady who needs her hubby to hold her hand to fly home in an evacuation because she has only met his parents a dozen times with him, but I had to go it alone? It is still an evacuation ...and still my first one at that too!

Or the lady who needs her husband to get her a new ID, but I get handed a stupid piece of paper & sent on my way....to get my first one even I did it alone & at an Air Force Base!

Or the lady who is having a emotional break down at home threatening to leave or whatever, while all I get is left sitting in a pool of hysterical hormonal pregnancy tears while he has to go back to work because of some new emergency?

What am I missing here?

I am really confused. Everyone who romanticizes the military must only be on the foreign end of it. No wonder they have their own cliques, they have their own reality! And then everyone wonders why there is a divide & resentment between American wives & foreign nationals.

I don't care what their culture or customs are. What if I would like to have those same customs & culture? Oh I can't because I am American? Err.....

So sick of it! And people think that the military doesn't discriminate & that the government is fair! HA!

Please, "Hitting" Is Not the Path to Violence

I am a part of a group on Facebook called "Circle of Moms". A great group that allows a lot of moms to get together & share various ideas, beliefs, & most importantly, advice. I have rather enjoyed discussing issues with other moms, most backing up some of the ideologies & beliefs that I hold for me & my family.

Every once in a while there is an individual that tries to skew things & this is one of those below. I was going to let it slide, but have come to the belief that is exactly what the problem is. No one is speaking up. "Of nothing comes nothing," and it works both ways. If you do nothing, nothing will come of it...including change. So here is what got me fired up:

Other Poster: "It is a testament to why our crime rates are so high, because you parents who think your only resort is to hit your children are breeding violent teens and adults who become social misfits and degenerates. Please! Stop hitting your kids, Maybe someone should hit you every time you screw up! You would leave him, wouldn't you?! Well then maybe your kids should leave YOU!"

Then went on to add: "I don't respect the people who hit me-I just hate them and want to hurt them back worse then they hurt me!"

My Response: "I am sorry to hear that your past issues are coming forward & being put off onto your children. Being beaten or abused is not ok & should never be accepted.

However, that said, either we are missing the point of your topic, thus being truly beating children, or you are completely uneducated & confused as to the differences between beating a child & discipline.

That also being said, I will start with every child, from infancy to adulthood, are unique & wired differently. Some can be spanked & get the point still feeling loved & cared for, while others just come out the womb in "survival overdrive" and take a spanking as someone literally trying to "hurt" them. I have examples of both in my family...siblings in fact. Thus not every child, even in the same family, will & can respond the same way to a uniform discipline.

Children thrive best in well disciplined homes. Why? Because that is the way that they know that their parents truly care & love them. If they have parents who truly are out to make them better people they know it. It is human nature, just as in the animal kingdom, to want to "pick" at those we love to try & make them better people. It is built into our DNA. It is also our job as parents. God was clear on that!

There is also an age spectrum in which various "spanking" is ok for discipline. You won't slap the back of your 2 years old's head to get their attention, but you might your 14 year old. Unfortunately that is not a "manual" on discipline.

And quite frankly, I am tired of seeing parents too scared to discipline their children in public because of individuals like you making threatening comments & beliefs. You can guarantee, if your child is unattended & acting out of line in a very rude & hateful way that is not just a child's normal behavior for acting out...I will be the first to say something to your child about their behavior.

As for the correlation to the crime rate, you might start looking at home & the influences that you allow to penetrate your home, your minds, & your children's development. It is not just one thing or another; there are just so many influences that intrude our lives. But our own backyards, which are supposed to be the safest, have become free for all war zones.

I am very much an advocate for those who are abused. But spanking is not abuse!"

Seriously, this "letting it slide" or "political correctness" BS starts as early as day 1 in which we enter the world. We have to stop the cycle if we truly want to get our lives, security, & freedom back!

Here's a Healthcare Reform For You

After the worst dental cleaning & exam in history (made my gums bleed more than I have ever experienced & then only "polished" them, no fluoride treatment or rinse), taking a second bath in my own spit & water (because their dental equipment was broke & I had to handle my own suction tool to help), & having the dentist give me a lecture on using his hard earned tax dollars to get dental care (because we spouses, you know, don't deserve care for the sacrifices we make & never carry dental insurance, even though I do)...I have a new idea about health care reform.

*Yes, the above is all true! Would swear it in a court of law! And that is what a government ran health care facility gets you too!!

With all this jabbering about an "immediate need" for universal health care to help those "47 million" Americans (out of the 306, 974, 395 million Americans total) without health care & the already outstanding & astonishing debt we have created since January 1st, 2009, I was thinking...

Why? Why do we feel so entitled to health care? Are we no longer responsible for our own health? We, as Americans, have bought into the idea that it is not our sole responsibility to take our health into our own hands, but to let the Lord & the Doctors make sure that we are healthy. Here we are, adults, unable to take the steps we need to ensure our own health in a society with the best health care on earth. This is amazing to me. We can't even make our own health a priority in our life, riddled with an affluent amount of excuses as to why it isn't our own fault that we are ill.

So under this assumed ideology, that I am certain the president & his goons are also using to push this "immediate need", that it is the doctors are responsible for our health. Right? Follow me?

What if our health care reform wasn't a free for all, or a change in "insurers" and insurance companies, but in the way we pay. The Chinese used to have this policy across the board: You only pay your doctor if your a healthy & fit?!

No seriously? What if you only paid your monthly fee if you were healthy, fit, trim, etc.?

OH WAIT! That's right! 1 - you can't cure stupid & 2- there are a number of health issues out there that are genetic, not the common cold.

So while Massachusetts is waiting currently 56 days to be seen by a doctor, the rest of the States averages 12 days. You pick! Which one is better?

"Don't Let Your Children Define You"

This has to be one of my biggest pet peeves. Though our children should not completely define the person we are, they should definitely play a role. A friend of mine posted this as her Facebook update, which sparked this blog: "I was told I should not [let] my children "define" me.. it was left on my blog as comment. What do you think?"

This comment back that sparked the entire debate was: "Your children are a blessing, to be sure, but they are not here to "define" you and [any] more than you are here to "define" them. Your children chose you (and you them) with your unique collection of talents, personality, and abilities to guide them as they unfold on this life journey. You will learn from, and shape, each others lives in both mundane and magical ways."

My final word:"Lmao! Children don't choose you no more than you choose them. They're not puppies in a shop window & you can't take them back when their nature or personality don't agree with you or yours. Each child was hand selected by God for you, with it's own unique purpose. Choosing to be a mother is the most divine purpose you can do...& the unique purpose God gave only to women. There's a reason men don't have babies! And honey, if you chose to wear the stay at home mommy hat & make it your priority on life along side your husband, you win all my respect & admiration. How our children turn out as adults does define the kind of people we are. It reflects on us to a point. Like I said before, there is a line though in which thy cross over to adulthood & no longer all on you. Are the close to leaving the nest? No! So keep up the great job love!!"

Seriously! We wonder why our society has taken the turn it has & our 30 year old children still live at home & can't function as productive members of society. Even the Federal Government is labeling "youth" as anyone 24 years of age or younger. Well...here is why: YOU DIDN'T TAKE THE TIME TO RAISE THEM! Children need more than food, water, clothing, & shelter with a splash of verbal discipline. Raising a child takes more out of you than any job or college degree. You can't just specialize in one subject & expect that to carry your child through life.

Raising a child takes you actually taking the time to stop & THINK & follow through with action that will shape & define them into productive members of society. You have to think of how each child is different & you were blessed with more than one personality within your children. The approach to each one is remarkably different for various situations, including discipline. You have to create rites of passages that help them develop through into an adult, etc. If "X" is the end result that you are looking for in your child, then you have to take the rest of the alphabet to make that result happen. It doesn't just occur.

Being a stay at home mom doesn't make you less of a human being, less of a person, or less intellect. Being a full time mom is one of the roles that God designed women for. Sure children also must have their fathers in their lives. They are just as important. But God was clear about his roles as well. If your hubby is out fulfilling his roles then you need to be the team player & fulfill yours.

Society has made us believe that children are a "burden" instead of a blessing, making it easier every day to "rid" ourselves of the children we don't want. As women continue to push their way into a more masculine roles, we see men starting to retreat into more feminine roles. Then we women sit around complaining that men aren't men anymore & won't step up to the plate. How can they when you are hogging the entire thing? There has to be a balance. God was clear about this balance when he made woman as a "PARTNER" to man...not his boss or his hers. A team player. Here we are forcing our kids into team sports for a "well-rounded" structuring yet being led by adults who can't be team players at home.

Am I the only one that sees the irony in our society & the stupidity of it all? What is the deference of our children "defining" us than a job? Most of us let careers, money, status, etc. define who we are. So why not our children...our role as a mother...as a parent?

A family unit is that...a UNIT. It takes everyone & everyone has a purpose in that family. As a unit, when one does good or when one messes up, it reflects on us all. For example:

The other day I was at Mc Donald's on base having lunch, feeling a little ill (pregnancy) & there was these two mothers with their 4 children sitting over at another table. Each child was feeding off the other. So when the table beating for ice cream started it was cute. But then when it continued for 5 minutes & only a "stop" being said it got old fast. So then when the "fine...no ice cream" came, the high pitched squealing started. That kept up. And the only response from the two moms was "stop".

Here was two moms who children "don't define them", when the reality is they definitely define them! The only thing I could focus on, was not the child, but the parents. They were not doing their part as a parent or making any effort to correct the behavior. To me, I defined them quickly: worthless. And their children are defining them as "They won't do anything to me!" & they will go through life thinking that they can do whatever they want & no one will say a thing.

So someone, again, why do our children not define us?

It Is People Like You that Ruin It For Everyone

We finally found a home! Hurray! On the way to view our soon-to-be new home our realtor was telling us about this house that he has coming open also, newer, but there is a lot of construction for renovations going on & thought we wouldn't be able to view it.

The conversation moved to the point in which most Americans when they get to foreign countries to live, just can't act right. They usually refuse to clean the house better than they got it, none-the-less, as well as they got it & just give up their security deposit instead as if it were a fair trade. They usually abuse the culture & its softer spots & their hired help as if they are superior to any other human being on the planet. (We have witnessed it more than once & in more than one country.) And most pet owners usually don't keep their pets in line or clean up well after them. We have seen such a house our first viewing here. I was expressing how disgusted I was & how I was shocked that Japanese still rent to Americans if that is what they do.

Our realtor chimes in with this story off this last American family that he just moved out of the house undergoing renovations. The renovations were being done because their dog ATE through the walls. Yes, I said ate. As in chewed & clawed right through the walls & doors. And not just one wall, but almost all of them!

I shook my head in disgust & my mouth dropped in shock. You could clearly read my facial expressions. "It is because of people like that that ruin it for people like us." We take care of our dog like a child, including discipline, even harsh if needed.

Later that night, as serendipity would have it, our taxi driver home told us that if we ever heard a story from our realtor about a dog chewing through the walls, that was her dog! (No, I'm not lying). She goes on to tell us that the dog has severe seperation anxiety, they never crated him, & it was $18,000 in damages. She was almost bragging, like she was famous now. After her security deposits & her (our) realtor talking to the landlord, it only cost her $500 to walk away & move onto base!

OMG! Are you crapping me? I held my tongue because I knew B would loose his mind. But if I run into her again, she will hear my opinion on the matter further than you have to train labradors because they require it to function. And why should she be allowed to live on base? Is base housing a way to avoid all responsibilty? Oh this pisses me off!!

Seriously, I wanted to jump over the seat, wrap my arm around her neck & just chew her a new one. It is because of people like her that people like us get screwed out of the enjoyments in life. Thank God our realtor understood this & showed us this brand new, just built & got the keys home & talked the landlord into letting us have our pet. Our realtor is my hero this week!

Either Sit & Piss or Get Off the Pot!

Seriously! I have a lot of pet peeves I have discovered as I get older. However, how bloody hard is it to sit you bum on the freaking toilet & piss? So it takes you an extra five seconds to get the toilet cover or some extra toilet paper to line the seat, is it really that hard?

I don't like sitting in your piss anymore than you like sitting in someone else's. If you don't want to line the seat, & still refuse to sit on it...WIPE IT OFF WHEN YOU ARE DONE!

THEN FLUSH!! Bloody hell people! Use your foot if you have too, or some more toilet paper, but flush the freaking toilet.

And ladies...that time of month...no one else needs to know. WIPE THE SEAT!

So sit down & piss like a civilized person or go use a bush. Quit ruining my toilet needs with your stupidity & white trash laziness. No wonder other cultures think we are a nasty group of people.

Seriously! On the bottom self?

So this whole blogging thing has been catchy lately & I need an outlet...so here I go!

I am pregnant right? So I might only be 5 months along (+ 1 week), but I am have been in maternity clothes for 2+ months now! Bending down or over is getting a little tricky these days. I have already lost sight of my toes when standing straight up! Bummer!!

So I want to know what newly graduated college dunce made the magazine self planning for BAM! (Books A Million)? Seriously! Who in their moronic state of mind thought it would be a brilliant idea to but the "pregnancy & mom-to-be" section on the very bottom shelf? Do we look like people who can just lean over to you? Do I crawl or am in only 3 feet tall? Even squatting is tricky when your legs are swelling & holding up an extra 30+ pounds. Blanace is all off!

I don't care what the plan was, I am sure the middle rows are saved for high volume & fast moving magazines like beading & motorcycles. Come on already! Even the top shelf would be better than the very bottom! Even if I had seen a pregnancy magazine I wanted today, I still would not have picked up since I was going to have to touch my toes practically!

Idiots, people who refuse to use their brains...are my #1 Pet Peeve!

Even if I weren't pregnant, I still would have seen the big bellied models on the front cover & thought twice about bottom shelf placement. It is called common sense & common courtesy.